May 2010 Issue #1

EBM newsletter

Dear All,

Welcome to the first EBM newsletter. This newsletter will be posted quarterly. We trust you will find it a support.

With love,
The EBM team.

A brief history of the founding of the EBM

The Esoteric Breast Massage (EBM) is a highly specialised healing technique founded in 2006 by Serge Benhayon. It is only for women and is conducted only by women practitioners. From his work as a practitioner, Serge saw that the way in which women’s bodies were being held was totally incongruent with the way they naturally are.  As a result he began presenting on the lack of femaleness in women and he then put together a series of esoteric techniques that help women to restore their bodies back to their natural rhythm.

Being a man Serge did not do an EBM but demonstrated the technique by simulation on his partner (clothed), to a select group of women who had developed themselves with the energetic integrity, energetic clarity, and in full understanding of the energetic responsibility required to practise the Esoteric Breast Massage modality.

The science of the EBM is based on the fact that a woman’s body flows naturally in the stillness of her grace when it is un-imposed upon by the rigours and onslaughts of our unbalanced world.

The EBM consists of very gentle hands-on movements that are specifically designed to help the woman connect to her breasts and to herself as a woman.

Beginning to honour and re-connect as a true Woman

As women we have lost sight of what it is to live as a truly claimed woman, and thus, how to honour a connection to our femaleness, which is the energy of stillness. We have disconnected from our naturally nurturing ways through not honouring our bodies but instead constructed a way of being that is pushing ourselves into an imbalance by an overemphasised use of male energy or motion at the expense of our innate stillness, our very foundation.   This has led to the commonly felt hardness in women’s bodies and other forms of disharmony such as endometriosis, fibroids, polycystic ovaries, menstrual irregularities, breast cancer and more. 

Our role models have been women who, not consciously knowing any other way themselves, have shown us that to succeed as women we have to put others first, thus disregarding what is true for us, and often leaving ourselves tired and run-down.  Many women have toughened themselves in reaction to living this way.

The philosophy that underpins the EBM acknowledges men and women are different and we naturally express differently, complementing each other when in harmony. When we do not honour this and try instead to compete with men, especially for social equality, we do so by using male energy and thus suffer the consequences of this disharmonious state in our bodies (as mentioned above). The re-configuration in us to be more driven in male energy then laces everything that we do - the way we live and the way we express.

The EBM encourages us to honour our natural fragility and tenderness. To be fragile does not mean to be weak and pathetic. Instead, as Serge Benhayon, the founder of the EBM says:

” Fragility is the ability, for us, to feel where we are at, and surrender to it.  Feeling fragile is not about being weak or about giving in, it is feeling the truth of where one is at; therefore, fragility needs to be honoured - otherwise it is the start of one shutting down.” S.I.B

If we honour our fragility and claim ourselves, we will naturally express as the women we are.  The way we live on a daily basis can ingrain the hardness in our bodies.  To change this, we have to feel the possibility that our bodies as they are may be in this hardness, but this is not our natural way, and from there come to an understanding of how we are creating it and ways to then change it.  For example, take the weekly shopping trip: Do you fill your shopping trolley and make it so heavy that it is a struggle or hurts your body to push the trolley and or hold on to it down the escalator? Do you carry 3 or 4 heavy shopping bags at a time from the car into the house?  When you get the shopping inside, do you immediately put the shopping away or do you check how you are feeling and perhaps have a rest before you continue?  The above are simple daily activities, however, do we follow them without question as a “I have to” or could we honour our bodies and feel whether taking in smaller shopping bag loads, making more trips to and from the car and or asking for help where we can, is more true for us in that moment?  This is just one of the many examples of the ways in which we override what our body feels and may tell us which contribute to the hardness and imbalance which is now so common-place in women.

Learning to say “no” is one of the best ways to develop our ability to honour our body.  For example, if you have arranged to catch up with a friend but when the day comes you feel tired, do you go out of obligation or do you say “not today” and hence honour yourself and how you are feeling in that moment? These are a few of the many examples of how we do not honour ourselves.

Are there any other ways you can feel you may do this? And if so, take time to ponder and re-connect to ways you could change this to make how you are with your body more honouring and loving to its natural rhythms.